I would like to start off with thanking everyone who has stopped by to read my blog. I would also like to say that if you have any questions or comments feel free to ask and post. I know several of you are probably thinking why would someone put up with something like this from the same person for so long? Well let me explain to you.
I was a young naive person that at the time did not know any better. Plus I was acting out and not really listening to what any one had to say. I was not and kinda still am not one to listen to the advice of others. I am great at giving it not so much at taking it. It is something I am working on.
Anyway when you are consistently being told you are not good enough, that you will never find someone who will love you or want you for that matter. That you will never amount to anything without them. It starts to take over your mind and you start to believe it. You start to believe that things that go wrong are your fault because that is what they said. That if anything goes wrong that it is because of you.
These reasons are some of the reasons why people do not leave an abusive relationship. Their minds are warped and they start to believe everything that the person is trying to tell them. They believe that this person would not lie to them because they say they love them.
You also have to know that people who emotionally and physically abuse others do not start doing it right away. They portray themselves to be great people. They put on this big act so you do not see the real them right away. They make theirselves out to be a loving caring person that will never do anything to hurt you.
Then once they get your trust everything they ever said just goes straight out the window. They slowly start to show their true colors. Of course they start off with the little stuff then it starts to get bigger and bigger until they have shown you the real them. By then they have you thinking everything is your fault and that you can do no better.